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And ironically the more we worry about it, the more tense we getand the more likely we are to say something stupid.

Let us a take a look at some remedies:

1 Learn to relax when you feel under pressure.

I often talk about the importance of managing your emotions

This is an essential skill.

There are a wide range of courses and books that you can refer toif you want to learn more about relaxation.

When you feel relaxed it is easier to think on your feet and to beflexible when you need to be.

2 Prepare Yourself

Before a social gathering get ready to have something to talk about.

With the internet on your PC there is no excuse for not becomingwell informed about the world. The more knowledge you have the moreconversations you can contribute to.

Make a point though of reading up on a variety of subjects otherwiseyour conversation topics will be limited to what interests you themost. And those topics may not interest your friends as much.

3 Become genuinely interested in other people

One of the big secrets to conversation power is to shut up! Weare all a lot more interested in ourselves than in anyone else.

When there is a long silence encourage the other person to talkby asking questions and taking an active interest in the answers.

Take charge of the situation if you want the conversation tocontinue.

4 Stupid Statements Are Allowed!

If you say something stupid it is not the end of the world. Ifyou try to hide your error then the situation can become chaoticvery quickly.

It is far better to just admit that you made a mistake. Also,accept that even smart people say stupid things some times.

As long as you accept that you will make mistakes you havenothing to worry about. Expecting yourself to be perfect isunfair and just sets you up for failure.

All you need to do now is to decide how you will deal with thesemistakes when they do happen.

5 Enjoy The Silence!

When there is a long silence in a conversation what normallypasses through your mind? Do you judge it as bad? Do you feelunder pressure to speak?

The other person has created the silence with you. Why not waitfor him to speak first? Take the responsibility off your shoulders.It takes at least two people to have a conversation.

Finally, the reason silence can be uncomfortable is because youbecome self conscious. You become very aware of your own thoughtsand feelings

There is one great way to deal with this. Put your attention onsomething outside of yourself by paying great attention to theother person and whatever is going on around you in the room.

Become fascinated by what you see and hear and you will forgetabout your own concerns.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recentlyproduced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps toDeveloping Communication Confidence. Apply now becauseit is available for a limited time only at: http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm